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Reflection on other 'love' posts

Surprisingly, most of the posts I read on whether "to love or not to love", were in favor of loving. I noticed a common theme between the blog posts that posed the question, "what if you fall in love and the other person does not feel the same?" or "What if someone says that they love you but they don't really mean it?". What I began to wonder after reading one of these posts is how do people know what love is and if they are truly in love or not? Since there aren't set guidelines to love, how can people be so sure? Some people think that it does not matter what age you are, it's about what you feel. But I believe that no matter how "in love" you think you are when you're young, it is not true love. Kids these days just like the thought of being in love, or like the way it sounds. Love takes experience and time. Yes we will have to go through different relationships and heartbreaks in order to find our one true love, but it's worth it. You cannot say that you love someone when you aren't experienced enough to know what love actually is. So even though loving someone is taking risks, if you try hard enough, you can find the right person who will teach you what love really means.

To love or not to love?

When I think of love I think of a feeling that cannot be prevented. It can be a strong desire, like a parent's love for their children or how a person loves their significant other. It can also be materialistic, like loving chocolate or a television show. In a typical romance movie, a couple falls in love, gets into a small argument, and then ends up getting back together in the end("happily ever after"). These types of movies show that love is easy and wonderful. After watching these movies, who wouldn't want to love? But then there are the depressing romance movies where a couple falls deeply in love, and then one of them dies and the other person is left, completely heartbroken. Or two people in love get into a fight and one of them runs off with another person, while the other person is left all alone. These movies snap people back into reality and help show that love really isn't just a sappy love story, and is much more complicated.

I don't believe that people can choose whether or not to fall in love. Love is a natural, human instinct and even if you don't want to fall in love, you cannot prevent it.  Some people refuse to fall in love or get married or have children. They want to be independent and want to save themselves from getting hurt. But usually these feelings are sparked by a past experience with love that hurt them, and they try to build up walls to keep themselves safe. People experience love multiple times with different people, sometimes it may be true or it may be something that appeared to be love but wasn't. Some relationships don't work out. But I don't think giving up is the answer. If one love doesn't work out, it wasn't meant to be, and there is another one waiting for you.

To answer the question, "to love or not to love?" I would choose to love because even though there is that risk of heartbreak and pain, I think the positives outweigh the negatives. I would want to fall in love with someone and have someone to talk to about anything, and just have someone that makes me happy. I grew up surrounded by love from my parents, my grandparents, my aunts and uncles and it just seems like a given. I would like to fall in love with someone someday and get married to them because I've never imagined my future without a husband in it. Despite the consequences that love may have, I believe that it is worth a try.